• Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Because I’m Scared of Dreaming

    This is one of those rare posts where I share my process. This is what happened. I was day dreaming, as I often do, and catching myself doing so (thank you, mindfulness). I was in resistance, simultaneously enjoying the day dreaming and beating myself up for it. And we know what Havi says… “When you struggle with yourself, the struggle always wins”. So I opened a new document on the laptop and started to write. I ended up having a conversation with “Wiser Me”, who gave me a bunch of wise advice. Here’s what I wrote: I was feeling pretty good, and day dreaming a wonderful dream. And since I…

  • Working with Stuff

    Clarity is Scary

    Say you want something. Like, oh, I don’t know, to pick an example totally at random: A WONDERFUL MAN. So you decide to work with this Want by using “Qualities” This is a technique to help you get closer to the thing you want. It works like this: you break down this thing you want into its Spiritual Qualities and you find out ways to give those qualities to yourself. So, WONDERFUL MAN will be made up of: + support + comfort + warmth + love + beauty + caring + grace + hope + joy + intimacy. Etc. You get the point. And now you try to find ways…