How to work with fear

“All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, orRead more

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How Do You Know When You’re Ready?

Lately I’ve been thinking about the concept of “being ready”. How do you know when you’re ready to get up in the morning? Or when you’re done with your shower? In yoga, how do we know when we are ready to leave one pose to get into a new one? Sometimes it happens “automatically”. YouRead more

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Using Lovers

My ex used to say that women want men the way they want fashion accessories. “They want men like they want a purse“. My ex was an arsehole. So there’s that. I’ve been noticing lately how and when I hanker for a man And the truth is… Not flattering. When I’m bored, and I craveRead more

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When other people have what you want

The other day I had a mini tantrum because someone had something I wanted. Though, to be precise, it was more like “someone had something I perceived to be similar to something I want”. And something happened: I immediately got all this wisdom from… a wiser part of me. (Havi calls hers “Wiser Me”). ItRead more

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What is “emotionally true” may not be “mentally true”

I had this realisation the other day… Fancy that! I believe I can explain this better by sharing with you an excerpt from a conversation Imo (my imaginary friend) and I had some time ago… Imo, please take the floor. Imo: I believe the conversation went like this… You were telling me about how it’sRead more