• Help in a crisis

    Life Breaks Us All

    Life will break you. It’s not because you have done anything wrong, it’s because that’s what life does. It breaks us over and over, so that we may awaken. Of course we don’t like it. In fact, if we didn’t fight it, the process wouldn’t work: it’s the struggle that leads to the breakthrough. That’s why aboriginal societies took their young people through “coming of age” rituals. To break them. They knew that in time life breaks us all, and it’s best to be prepared for it. They would purposely break them to teach them how to find the light. So that when life breaks them, as it does all…

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    Falling Apart on Purpose

    After a couple of days of falling apart on and off, I decided it was time to do it properly. And fall apart on purpose. I tidied the room (read: floor), filled a cup with water and grabbed dirty shirt to collect my tears (I knew I was gonna cry). I turned off the lights, put the laptop to sleep, lit a tea light candle on the table… and sat down in front of it, on 2 cushions, while wrapped in a blanket. And so it began. Falling apart on purpose I brought all of the things to the surface, one by one. All the things that are irrevocably “wrong”.…

  • Help in a crisis,  Stories of my life

    “I get it” – Encouraging words to stay on the path

    I wrote this while I was in pain. Perhaps trying to encourage myself and a potential reader, to keep going, to stay on the path. Because, baby, when the pain strikes, and you’ve been in pain seemingly forever, you feel like giving up for good. Here it is. I get it. I get how when the pain strikes, when you find yourself in the utmost depth of despair, it feels like it will never end. Perhaps you’ve been in pain for years. Perhaps it feels like forever. I get how when the pain strikes you would do anything, anything, to make it stop. Perhaps you have done some crazy, awful…

  • Help in a crisis,  My Thoughts on the World,  Working with Stuff

    Jumbled Thoughts on Depression and Suicide: How to help

    The topic of depression and suicide has been in my mind since the death of Robin Williams’ two days ago. These are my thoughts. They are slightly jumbled, because this is an extremely triggering topic for me. All in all, I think I did quite well. Caveats! * I will be writing about depression and suicide, and what people can do to help those with depression. That’s the angle. If you are triggered by these topics, proceed with caution. * As always, all my knowledge is derived from personal experience. Especially on the topics of depression and suicide. I don’t claim to know what works for everyone, forever, but this…