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    Dooming and Un-dooming

    I have a special knack for “dooming” You know “dooming”, right? It’s when you go: “OMG! This is it, this is the end of everything! Now I’ve done it, I’ve ruined everything and I’ll be forever a failure and a loser! DOOM! DOOM!!!” Yep. Dooming. “But that’s terrible”, I hear you say. Well… Perhaps it’s all a matter of changing the “filter” through which we see things. True, dooming can be… overwhelming. Making a small thing into “the end of everything”? Kind of extreme. And yet, I’ve come to realise that we do need a bit of “dooming”. We just need to doom “mindfully”. Hear me out I have been…

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    Working with a “Social Anxiety Crisis”

    The other day I had a… “social interaction mishap”. You know the type: you are interacting with someone and all of a sudden everything goes horribly, horribly wrong and they hate you and send you packing. Something like that. Of course, my social anxiety showed up in full force. But this time, I “caught it”. This was the thought / feeling going through my head: “I can’t deal with people, I can’t deal, I can’t!!!” Here it is. My stuff. Then I applied the techniques and had a mini revelation, which I’m sharing with you here. First: Acknowledge and allow I talk a lot about “acknowledging and allowing” your pain,…

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    The Fastest Way out of a Depression “Crisis”

    I’ve been unproductive for almost 2 weeks now. But I have not been “depressed”. I have felt “blue”… I have spent countless hours watching the entire series of “Hey Arnold!”… I have found it difficult to concentrate… I have been procrastinating on important stuff like there’s no tomorrow… I’ve been unable to force myself to do anything… But I’ve not been “depressed”. In fact, I’ve been relaxed. And, at times, even joyful. What is going on?!? As you know, I’ve a long history of depression. And when I say long, I mean really long. I may have been depressed since I was 5 years old. (Now THAT is a long,…

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    Working with “Horrific”

    Warning! This is me working through a really, really depressive episode. I talk about all kinds of traumatic stuff. Yet I also find a way to resolve it, and I show you the method I used. Read only if you feel ready.   I went through a really tough time the other day. It was a full on “Depression Crisis”, so I worked with it by writing. What I did was to put into practice what Havi calls the “three part method”. It’s at the core of pretty much all spiritual teachings I’ve encountered (that’s not many), and it’s proven the only way to work with your emotional turmoil. The…

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    Working with Unemployment-ness

    Warning: Unemployment-ness, that is, the state of being unemployed, can be a minefield of triggers for all kinds of emotional turmoil. It’s difficult, painful and there are no easy answers. This his how I’m practicing, and so far it’s a work in progress. This is not the post I wish I was writing. The post I would love to write would be “how to reach eternal fabulousness, and how you can too”. But I can’t write that post, because I have not reached “eternal fabulousness” yet. The minute I do, you’ll be the first to know. Instead, I’m struggling with the feelings of unworthiness that come from being unemployed (and…