• Live under the New Rules

    The Map vs the Compass

    Remember Srini Rao from the last post? We’re gonna look into his “Map vs Compass” idea In his words: Srini Rao: “The map was based on where somebody else wanted me to end up.” Therese: “Challenges are inherent in ditching the map. And why are so many people afraid to do it.” Srini Rao: “Well it’s an incredibly difficult thing. The map has clear destinations outlined on it. Everything on the map is predetermined, so you don’t have to think, you don’t have to face uncertainty. Suddenly you are left to fend for yourself. The thing that a compass gives you is it points you in a particular direction. How…

  • Help in a crisis

    The Inner World of a Meltdown

    Here’s the thing. A part of me doesn’t want me to post this, because she thinks it’s completely useless. Another part of me thinks it can help someone, and “you never know”. So I’m letting *you* decide. Feel free to let me know if it does help you.   The Story: How I Ended Up In “Meltdown” Remember my guest post for Awesomepreneur? I had to write a bio. And it was… challenging. This is what happened… First: I left it until the last minute. Of course I did. I procrastinated like no other. That said, I was mindful about it: I knew I was postponing working on it because…

  • Working with Stuff

    List o’ Things to do When You Can’t

      “When you can’t *what*, Mary?” Exactly. Here are some suggestions for when you are angry, or hurting, and you want to take action but you wonder whether you can do anything. When you can pour your heart out in writing, do. When you can’t pour your heart out, write a paragraph. When you can’t write a paragraph, write a sentence. When you can’t write a sentence, write an idea on an Evernote post.   When you can do yoga, do yoga. When you can’t do yoga, do only 3 poses. When you can’t do 3 poses, get on child’s pose and cry. When you can’t get on child’s pose…

  • Working with Stuff

    Why do we endure pain?

    I am visiting my parents for the holidays… And while I’m here, I am coaching a Very Important Person… My mother. Today’s “Unexpected Lesson” has to do with endurance. Specifically with enduring pain. My Mum was wearing a nice pair of shoes which, after walking a few blocks, began to hurt her feet. Eventually they drew blood on her toe. She’s worn them before; they have hurt her before. So I pointed out the obvious: why was she wearing those shoes again? She has other shoes. And she has money to buy new shoes, should she choose to. But she endures. She endures the suffering. Because that’s what she’s been…

  • Stories of my life

    I wish I wasn’t a zombie

    Sometimes, when I’m REALLY aware of how SINGLE I am, I unconsciously go into “zombie state”. You know zombies, right? They walk around like… zombies with only one thought in mind: “brains”. Except that they don’t have minds… I’m not doing a very good job of explaining zombies here. Let’s ask Wikipedia: A zombie is an animated corpse raised by magical means, such as witchcraft. The term is often figuratively applied to describe a hypnotized person bereft of consciousness and self-awareness, yet ambulant and able to respond to surrounding stimuli. So, forget about the “animated corpse” part. I’m more of a “figuratively speaking” kinda person. So, I am using the…