• Live under the New Rules,  My Thoughts on the World

    You Were Given This Story Because You Are Strong Enough To Hold It

    There’s a truism that goes like this: “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle”. It sounds better in English than in Spanish, where we say “God strangles but doesn’t hang”. (I know, right? Hideous. Told you it was better in English.) As with most truisms, I’m left wondering whether it’s true or whether it’s something we “wish” were true. For argument’s sake, let’s say it’s true, but with a twist. Let’s say “God doesn’t give me more challenging Truths than I can handle”. For me, only the Truth will do Ah, yes. The Heaven’s know I’m a smart cookie. Not for me the simplistic “jump and the net…

  • Working with Stuff

    Holding Beliefs for Others… and When Not To

    My realisation went like this: “I am not going to carry beliefs for them* any more. I am done. No more.” *Them being “men”. Men in general. I am not altogether clear on what this meant, so I’m going to try to find clarity by writing about it here. “Holding Beliefs for Others” Holding Beliefs for other people can be a wonderful practice, if done consciously. Like when I hold a belief for my friend. It works like this: When she’s having trouble believing good things for herself, I hold that belief for her. I say “I believe you are amazing, and you are capable of awesome things in this…

  • Stuff you can try

    How Do You Know When You’re Ready?

    Lately I’ve been thinking about the concept of “being ready”. How do you know when you’re ready to get up in the morning? Or when you’re done with your shower? In yoga, how do we know when we are ready to leave one pose to get into a new one? Sometimes it happens “automatically”. You have an alarm, and that decides things for you. Or you need to pee, so up you go. But what if there’s no alarm? And you don’t feel like getting up? What then? How do you know when you’re ready to get out of bed? This transition “state” fascinates me: what makes us ready to…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    The Myth of Perfection

    There’s this quote by Brene Brown that became really popular: “You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.” That sounds really cute an’ all, but what does it actually mean? I think I’ve found an answer. And it came to me by way of someone else’s wisdom: “life is hard sometimes, and we aren’t told that when we are kids” Ah. Yes. I have a story, and it involves my hairy legs. Growing Hairy Legs When I reached puberty, at around the age of 12, I began to grow hair on my legs. Much like everyone else. Except that, for me, it seemed…