• Live under the New Rules,  My Thoughts on the World

    Mental Health Diagnosis? Hardly

    Someone told me their mental health diagnosis. Except I didn’t hear it at such. And my response was “Oh, sweetie, I am so sorry”. Though I may not have said those actual words. I did say it energetically: that was my feeling. See, when someone tells me their mental health “diagnosis” I don’t see it as a mental health diagnosis at all. I have done so much work on my own “mental health diagnosis”, and I am now swimming so deep in the waters of Spirituality that “mental health diagnosis” gets translated for me into “this is the crisis that the Universe has decided to throw at me at this…

  • Help in a crisis

    Life Breaks Us All

    Life will break you. It’s not because you have done anything wrong, it’s because that’s what life does. It breaks us over and over, so that we may awaken. Of course we don’t like it. In fact, if we didn’t fight it, the process wouldn’t work: it’s the struggle that leads to the breakthrough. That’s why aboriginal societies took their young people through “coming of age” rituals. To break them. They knew that in time life breaks us all, and it’s best to be prepared for it. They would purposely break them to teach them how to find the light. So that when life breaks them, as it does all…

  • Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    “All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

    The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, or this will never make sense. Right now I am deep inside this story: all my friends will leave me because I am a big failure. My emotions are… oh, Heaven knows. I don’t have to know what they are, I just have to feel them and remind myself that they are legitimate. I think I’m…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    What is the Point of Dreaming?

    Note: this was written at the very end of a difficult time of Extreme Emotions, after my first week visiting my parents in Buenos Aires, Argentina.   This much is true for me. Sometimes all you can do is hold on And when I say “sometimes” I mean, days, weeks, months, even years. Yes. Years. Some years all you can do is hold on. Without a plan. Without even any trust, for trust is a muscle and it grows slowly. Some years all you can do is hold on. Breathe. Practice. Stay as present as you can, processing as much as you can and not more. Being as kind to…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    A Story About Failure

    The Mother of all Caveats: This is a very long post, more than 2800 words. And I do not recommend reading it. It tells of a very sad story of my life, the details of “The Hardest Winter”. It is full of failure, and there’s no “redeeming happy ending”. There’s a bit on the life lessons I learned through it but mostly, it’s just failure. At the beginning of this year I had 2 main goals. Though I cannot call them “goals”. They are more like… adventures. Let’s just say I wanted to achieve 2 things to make my life “better”: a “new job” and meeting Mr Soulmate. “New Job”…