• Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    “All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

    The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, or this will never make sense. Right now I am deep inside this story: all my friends will leave me because I am a big failure. My emotions are… oh, Heaven knows. I don’t have to know what they are, I just have to feel them and remind myself that they are legitimate. I think I’m…

  • Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    When other people have what you want

    The other day I had a mini tantrum because someone had something I wanted. Though, to be precise, it was more like “someone had something I perceived to be similar to something I want”. And something happened: I immediately got all this wisdom from… a wiser part of me. (Havi calls hers “Wiser Me”). It just came into my mind (which is far less impressive than it sounds) and I wrote it all down. This is what she said to me. It is seriously spot on. I hope it makes sense and that you find it helpful. It is perfectly normal for you to have your Wants triggered by other…