• Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Because I’m Scared of Dreaming

    This is one of those rare posts where I share my process. This is what happened. I was day dreaming, as I often do, and catching myself doing so (thank you, mindfulness). I was in resistance, simultaneously enjoying the day dreaming and beating myself up for it. And we know what Havi says… “When you struggle with yourself, the struggle always wins”. So I opened a new document on the laptop and started to write. I ended up having a conversation with “Wiser Me”, who gave me a bunch of wise advice. Here’s what I wrote: I was feeling pretty good, and day dreaming a wonderful dream. And since I…

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    What is “emotionally true” may not be “mentally true”

    I had this realisation the other day… Fancy that! I believe I can explain this better by sharing with you an excerpt from a conversation Imo (my imaginary friend) and I had some time ago… Imo, please take the floor. Imo: I believe the conversation went like this… You were telling me about how it’s annoying when you can’t stop yourself from smiling at the sight of an attractive man, and I asked why it was so annoying… Mary: Because then they can tell I like them and everything goes downhill after that. Imo: Why… Mary: Because I don’t have a chance in Hell with any of them, that’s why!…