• Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    “All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

    The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, or this will never make sense. Right now I am deep inside this story: all my friends will leave me because I am a big failure. My emotions are… oh, Heaven knows. I don’t have to know what they are, I just have to feel them and remind myself that they are legitimate. I think I’m…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Because I’m Scared of Dreaming

    This is one of those rare posts where I share my process. This is what happened. I was day dreaming, as I often do, and catching myself doing so (thank you, mindfulness). I was in resistance, simultaneously enjoying the day dreaming and beating myself up for it. And we know what Havi says… “When you struggle with yourself, the struggle always wins”. So I opened a new document on the laptop and started to write. I ended up having a conversation with “Wiser Me”, who gave me a bunch of wise advice. Here’s what I wrote: I was feeling pretty good, and day dreaming a wonderful dream. And since I…

  • Working with Stuff

    You are not what you own

    I was listening to Tad Hargrave, from “Marketing for Hippies”, describing the most sleazy marketing techniques he has come across… And I wondered… All these people’s desperation to make money no matter what… It must be borne out of fear. It has to be. What are they so afraid of? That they will make less money? And is that such a bad thing? I have spent the entirety of my adult life being deeply and truly poor. Which sucks, in oh-so-many ways… But one of the “upsides” of being so poor is that I don’t fear poverty so much. I know I can survive on little. I cannot imagine myself…

  • Working with Stuff

    Your Sacred Needs

    I want to share with you this quote by Charles Eisenstein, on an interview for “Humans are not Broken”. He’s a fantastic political writer / philosopher / mindfulness person. (My description, not his). He has a truly revolutionary approach to “politics” and in this particular case, to food. “When I eat really fresh good food… Sometimes I eat something that’s really good, really high quality, like sacred food, and I’m like “WOW, this is what we’re missing… and lacking this, no wonder people over eat”. It’s like they are vaccuming up everything in hope of finding this. Maybe we’re living in this incredible poverty, and the illusion of incredible abundance.…