• Working with Stuff

    Envy

    I have a strong pattern around “envy”. It’s partly the background I grew up in. Back in Argentina, people will resort to anything to put on airs and graces, trying to impress everyone, while they simultaneously lose their sh!t whenever someone has something they don’t. Putting on airs, losing their sh!t. Rinse, repeat. It’s not a pretty sight, or a healthy state of mind to be in. It’s mostly seen on insecure people. And most always on *women*. People turn nasty. Manipulative. Heartless. They will grab onto anything to impress other people. Including their own offspring. “My child goes to Yale” “oh, yeah? Well mine goes to Harvard“. That kind…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Triggered

    Triggers. They are no fun, to put it *very* mildly. In case you don’t know what a trigger is (like I didn’t) here’s what they look like for me. I see something, or hear something, and all of a sudden a memory of a Horrible Moment in my life shows up and I can’t stop feeling distressed. The memory won’t go away, the distress won’t go away, and I can no longer function. That’s what happens to me “now”. What used to happen, back before I started working with my stuff, is that I would see something I seriously disapproved, I would proceed to lose my marbles completely, the “thing”…

  • Working with Stuff

    I am single and I’m in pain

    This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*. Now, according to Karla McLaren, anger shows up when our boundaries have been crossed. Since I’m a HSP with very thin boundaries, and since I don’t get angry very often, I have learned to make the best out of my anger when it does show up. That is: I feel the anger, allow it to…