• Working with Stuff

    Holding Beliefs for Others… and When Not To

    My realisation went like this: “I am not going to carry beliefs for them* any more. I am done. No more.” *Them being “men”. Men in general. I am not altogether clear on what this meant, so I’m going to try to find clarity by writing about it here. “Holding Beliefs for Others” Holding Beliefs for other people can be a wonderful practice, if done consciously. Like when I hold a belief for my friend. It works like this: When she’s having trouble believing good things for herself, I hold that belief for her. I say “I believe you are amazing, and you are capable of awesome things in this…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Triggered

    Triggers. They are no fun, to put it *very* mildly. In case you don’t know what a trigger is (like I didn’t) here’s what they look like for me. I see something, or hear something, and all of a sudden a memory of a Horrible Moment in my life shows up and I can’t stop feeling distressed. The memory won’t go away, the distress won’t go away, and I can no longer function. That’s what happens to me “now”. What used to happen, back before I started working with my stuff, is that I would see something I seriously disapproved, I would proceed to lose my marbles completely, the “thing”…

  • Stories of my life

    My Highly Sensitive Person Manifesto

    One of the reasons why it has taken me so blooming long to find out that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person is because… I am sensitive to things most people aren’t sensitive to. For example: most HSPs have food allergies or food sensitivities. Well… I don’t. I have no food allergies of any kind to my knowledge. Because my sensitivities are… “unconventional”, they are harder to spot. So I’m sharing them with you. This post will be part “educational” and part “manifesto”. Because I really want to say “this is what I’m sensitive to and it’s legitimate, damn it!”. Let’s start. Sound A lot of HSP are sensitive to sound.…