• Working with Stuff

    The Fear of Being Single

    Why yes, we are talking about being single. Yet again. It all begun when I run into this article by Sara Eckel. Apparently, the “fear of being single” makes us choose bad partners. Then I was reading Martha Beck’s “Steering by Starlight” and she got to this concept that “you attract people when you are happy and you repel people when you are miserable”. She says: “In a self-critical, fear-based mindset, the clients seem to physically repel people (..) But when my clients managed to hold on to thoughts of being worthy and loveable, others move towards them (…)”. From there on, people make all sorts of wild jumps and…

  • My Thoughts on the World,  Working with Stuff

    On being single and learning to “be OK on your own first”

    Argh. ARGH, I say! I feel like I want to blow up through this bullsh!t. Let’s get a few things straight. This whole “you have to be OK on your own first” is part of what we shall call… “The Single Story” that the world of woo seems particularly keen on. The Single Story goes like this. “First you are single. Then you acquire the magical superpower of self-love and you learn to feel happy being on your own. You learn to love your single life. And then poof! You find someone. Like magic.” The world of woo… Bless it. It’s made up of humans, and humans always find a…