• Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    Being Single Alone

      It’s Valentine’s Day, or as we call it on this website, “Valiant Day”, and since this time tends to wreck the nerves of us single people, I thought I would come out of my Writer’s Block to share the best advice I can give you on how to deal with singleness in a world of coupledness. And that advice is:   “You do not talk about being single with people who are coupled”.   Now you may be thinking “whaaat?”, so don’t worry, I will expand on this. And if you regularly find yourself in painful conversations with your coupled friends, you may want to read until the end.  …

  • My Thoughts on the World,  Working with Stuff

    On being single and learning to “be OK on your own first”

    Argh. ARGH, I say! I feel like I want to blow up through this bullsh!t. Let’s get a few things straight. This whole “you have to be OK on your own first” is part of what we shall call… “The Single Story” that the world of woo seems particularly keen on. The Single Story goes like this. “First you are single. Then you acquire the magical superpower of self-love and you learn to feel happy being on your own. You learn to love your single life. And then poof! You find someone. Like magic.” The world of woo… Bless it. It’s made up of humans, and humans always find a…