• Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    When other people have what you want

    The other day I had a mini tantrum because someone had something I wanted. Though, to be precise, it was more like “someone had something I perceived to be similar to something I want”. And something happened: I immediately got all this wisdom from… a wiser part of me. (Havi calls hers “Wiser Me”). It just came into my mind (which is far less impressive than it sounds) and I wrote it all down. This is what she said to me. It is seriously spot on. I hope it makes sense and that you find it helpful. It is perfectly normal for you to have your Wants triggered by other…

  • Stuff you can try,  Widdershins Essentials,  Working with Stuff

    Your Awesome Thing

    Your Awesome Thing is the Thing you want to do in this world Sometimes it will look like a “specific thing”. A very clear goal. A dream. You can see the image in your mind’s eye, you can describe every detail of it. It’s a house, a car, a website, a city, a job. Sometimes it will feel like a craving… A vague sense of wanting “more” in your life. Not a specific “Thing” but a spiritual quality. I use “Awesome” as a default, because who doesn’t want that. But it could be, for example, Confidence. you just wish you could feel more confident, act more confident, or surround yourself…

  • Working with Stuff

    Clarity is Scary

    Say you want something. Like, oh, I don’t know, to pick an example totally at random: A WONDERFUL MAN. So you decide to work with this Want by using “Qualities” This is a technique to help you get closer to the thing you want. It works like this: you break down this thing you want into its Spiritual Qualities and you find out ways to give those qualities to yourself. So, WONDERFUL MAN will be made up of: + support + comfort + warmth + love + beauty + caring + grace + hope + joy + intimacy. Etc. You get the point. And now you try to find ways…

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    New Year Ritual – Forgiveness and Wishing

    Well… New Year’s Eve is definitely upon us. Just a few more hours… I have so much stuff around New Year’s Eve. I really struggle. So I did what I do best: I wrote and processed it. And it helped. These are the “pearls” of what came out. I wanted to find my own “End of 2013” ritual. And my own “Hello 2014” ritual. Remembering the good (because it was there) and respecting the horrible (because it was there too) Let’s see… Permission: the key to doing this and looking back on 2013 “I don’t have to be all positive. I can if I want to, but I don’t have…

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    I wish I wasn’t a zombie

    Sometimes, when I’m REALLY aware of how SINGLE I am, I unconsciously go into “zombie state”. You know zombies, right? They walk around like… zombies with only one thought in mind: “brains”. Except that they don’t have minds… I’m not doing a very good job of explaining zombies here. Let’s ask Wikipedia: A zombie is an animated corpse raised by magical means, such as witchcraft. The term is often figuratively applied to describe a hypnotized person bereft of consciousness and self-awareness, yet ambulant and able to respond to surrounding stimuli. So, forget about the “animated corpse” part. I’m more of a “figuratively speaking” kinda person. So, I am using the…