• My Thoughts on the World

    Happy Valiant Day

    Happy Valiant Day! What is Valiant Day, you ask? Is the day when you celebrate yourself for having the courage to believe in love, despite its absence, and for putting yourself out there over and over again despite the hearbreak. I wanna talk about the vulnerable experience of putting ourselves out there. Also known as “being single and looking”. Being “Single and Looking” It’s a bit like walking around with your heart on your sleeve. At any moment you can go back to being a 5 year old on the first day of school. Head downcast, feet shuffling, sleeves twisting, wondering if anyone will want to be your Best Friend.…

  • Stories of my life

    What do I know about poverty?

    It all begun with this question. “What do you know about poverty, Mary?” You know how people in business sites and self-help sites (which should be one and the same) are always telling you that “people will be attracted to your flaws”? Yeah, I don’t believe it either. I mean, here I am exposing my flaws regularly on this here blog, and… where are all those people who are supposed to be attracted to me again? This is probably my stuff talking. It definitely sounds like my stuff. The whole “people will be attracted to your flaws” feels true. It may not “seem” true, according to my stuff. But it…

  • Stories of my life

    Sharing My Story

    So… you know I find it almost impossible to “share my story”.* Which is unfortunate, because I feel very much this is what needs to happen. * I only just noticed: this is the second post inspired by Therese’s work! See? Sharing your story inspires other people. (doesn’t make it any less scary, though) Working with it I let out my anger by “talking” (also known as “rant-writing”, also known as “getting the conversation in your head out of your head”), like this: I’m scared, OK!? Because, you see, unlike YOU, person who only exists inside my head, *I* have had it real tough. No, much tougher than *YOU*. Much…

  • My heart. MY HEART!!!
    Stories of my life

    Weird Things About Me

    Let’s start the year with a BANG! Or rather a… 5, 4, 3, 2, 1! :D It began with a pushing voice at the back of my mind, after reading Therese’s post on “embarrassing confessions”. “Do you believe in making the world a less lonely place, a more connected place, a more REAL place? Do you, Mary? DO YOU???” Ehm… Well, yes… Much like I believe in all sorts of things, so long as I don’t have to do anything actually difficult. Like… make myself vulnerable by revealing some of my flaws to the world… I’d much rather show a perfect life. Granted, that means I have to “hide away”…