• Working with Stuff

    How to Survive a Job Beneath You

    It was a few months ago. I was doing a “j-o-b”, day after day after day. I needed the money. Trapped. Bored. Anxious. Help! I wrote down the title of this post, and I listed all the things I was doing to help myself survive the dread. Lots of us are in this “in between” place We are working towards our “dream”, but we have to carry on doing things we don’t want to do. Like what Marie Forleo calls “Bridge Job”. “Waiting for things to get better” can be excruciatingly painful. You are desperate, lost, confused, hurting like Hell, and you have absolutely no idea what to do, because…

  • Working with Stuff

    How to find your way in the Self Help World

    Argh! So sorry guys for not posting in nearly a month! I had a brilliant excuse, though. I was in Portugal teaching yoga :D. With no internet access. This whole “being offline for 2 weeks” thing? I cannot recommend it enough. But more about this some other time. Right now I want to answer a question posed by my friend today. Here it is: with all these self help people on the internet, how do you know which one to follow? This is my reply.   There are, roughly speaking, 39 billion self-help people on the internet, at the time of last counting. How on EARTH do you choose which…

  • Personal,  Working with Stuff

    An Open Letter to Friends and Family

    An open letter to friends, family and other people who care about me:   I would first like to thank you for being in my life. And for caring about me. This means a lot, even if I can’t show it most of the time. I have a small favour to ask of you. You see, I’ve been working with my issues lately, trying to heal myself. And this process requires me to fully acknowledge and validate my pain. Here’s how you can help me, if you want: Please don’t question my feelings. Please don’t invalidate my reasons for being in pain. Telling me that “I’m being silly for worrying…

  • Personal,  Political

    “Who You Gonna Call?”

    So, here I was, publishing my workthrough on “Unemployment-ness” when Imo* asked me the question: “Perhaps it’s the “Unemployed” label … What would you choose to label yourself?” * That would be my imaginary friend I thought about it and replied: “Someone who is not yet capable of supporting herself but is trying to get something started?”. And he asked: “Could it be the fact that Widdershins is not supporting you yet that’s getting in the way? Could that be stopping you from loving Widdershins?” I remained silent. Or rather, I felt the urge to fight back his question, which I’ve learnt is a sure sign that he’s right. And…