• Working with Stuff

    Doing Things can suck it: why obsessing about productivity may not work

    Doing things. To-do-lists. “How are you going to get there?!?!” “It won’t just happen, you know, you have to act!” Do things!!! DO-THINGS!!! Etc. This is how most of the coaching world sounds like to me. Now, let’s be clear on something: for some people, this kind of “motivation” to “action” works a treat. It is precisely what they need. The want to do something, and then someone reminds them to act… and they go and act. They may even hire a coach to motivate them. Well. Good for them. For other people, this kind of emphasis on “action” has the exact opposite effect of “motivating” us. In fact, it…

  • Stuff you can try

    What is “emotionally true” may not be “mentally true”

    I had this realisation the other day… Fancy that! I believe I can explain this better by sharing with you an excerpt from a conversation Imo (my imaginary friend) and I had some time ago… Imo, please take the floor. Imo: I believe the conversation went like this… You were telling me about how it’s annoying when you can’t stop yourself from smiling at the sight of an attractive man, and I asked why it was so annoying… Mary: Because then they can tell I like them and everything goes downhill after that. Imo: Why… Mary: Because I don’t have a chance in Hell with any of them, that’s why!…