• Stuff you can try,  Working with Stuff

    “All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

    The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, or this will never make sense. Right now I am deep inside this story: all my friends will leave me because I am a big failure. My emotions are… oh, Heaven knows. I don’t have to know what they are, I just have to feel them and remind myself that they are legitimate. I think I’m…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    A Story About Failure

    The Mother of all Caveats: This is a very long post, more than 2800 words. And I do not recommend reading it. It tells of a very sad story of my life, the details of “The Hardest Winter”. It is full of failure, and there’s no “redeeming happy ending”. There’s a bit on the life lessons I learned through it but mostly, it’s just failure. At the beginning of this year I had 2 main goals. Though I cannot call them “goals”. They are more like… adventures. Let’s just say I wanted to achieve 2 things to make my life “better”: a “new job” and meeting Mr Soulmate. “New Job”…

  • Live under the New Rules,  My Thoughts on the World

    You Were Given This Story Because You Are Strong Enough To Hold It

    There’s a truism that goes like this: “God doesn’t give us more than we can handle”. It sounds better in English than in Spanish, where we say “God strangles but doesn’t hang”. (I know, right? Hideous. Told you it was better in English.) As with most truisms, I’m left wondering whether it’s true or whether it’s something we “wish” were true. For argument’s sake, let’s say it’s true, but with a twist. Let’s say “God doesn’t give me more challenging Truths than I can handle”. For me, only the Truth will do Ah, yes. The Heaven’s know I’m a smart cookie. Not for me the simplistic “jump and the net…