Shorter version of this post: Ignore everyone and just follow your heart.

The Fear of Being Single

Why yes, we are talking about being single. Yet again. It all begun when I run into this article by Sara Eckel. Apparently, the “fear of being single” makes us choose bad partners. Then I was reading Martha Beck’s “Steering by Starlight” and she got to this concept that “you attract people when you areRead more


I am single and I’m in pain

This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*.Read more

Have compassion for me! This is so *not* what my life looks like right now.

This Post is Actually About Compassion

  Someone hasn’t had sex in 1 year. And then I laughed. I laughed because I haven’t seen “any” in 3 years The only acceptable response to this revelation is “Cheesus Christ!!! I can’t even!!!”. Yes. That is the only acceptable response. It is not, however, the response I actually get from friends and such.Read more


On being single and learning to “be OK on your own first”

Argh. ARGH, I say! I feel like I want to blow up through this bullsh!t. Let’s get a few things straight. This whole “you have to be OK on your own first” is part of what we shall call… “The Single Story” that the world of woo seems particularly keen on. The Single Story goesRead more

ditch the costume

Valentine’s Day Rhapsody

“Who will want me? Who could possibly want *me*, with this ugly face, messy body, terrible present and traumatised past? I look in the mirror and the “truth” is clear. There, on my face: nobody will love me. That’s just the way it is. I’m going to be single forever. Damn. Who could ever loveRead more