How to work with fear

“All my friends will leave me” – How to work with fear

The challenge is to separate the emotions from the story. Acknowledge the emotions, and let go of the story. So many people cannot differentiate between the two. They see an emotion, and have to destroy it. They go straight into discrediting the story, sacrificing the emotion in the process. Let’s look at an example, orRead more

Happy Valiant Day

Happy Valiant Day

Happy Valiant Day! What is Valiant Day, you ask? Is the day when you celebrate yourself for having the courage to believe in love, despite its absence, and for putting yourself out there over and over again despite the hearbreak. I wanna talk about the vulnerable experience of putting ourselves out there. Also known asRead more

Shorter version of this post: Ignore everyone and just follow your heart.

The Fear of Being Single

Why yes, we are talking about being single. Yet again. It all begun when I run into this article by Sara Eckel. Apparently, the “fear of being single” makes us choose bad partners. Then I was reading Martha Beck’s “Steering by Starlight” and she got to this concept that “you attract people when you areRead more

Stuff

I am single and I’m in pain

This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*.Read more

Have compassion for me! This is so *not* what my life looks like right now.

This Post is Actually About Compassion

  Someone hasn’t had sex in 1 year. And then I laughed. I laughed because I haven’t seen “any” in 3 years The only acceptable response to this revelation is “Cheesus Christ!!! I can’t even!!!”. Yes. That is the only acceptable response. It is not, however, the response I actually get from friends and such.Read more