• My Thoughts on the World

    Happy Valiant Day

    Happy Valiant Day! What is Valiant Day, you ask? Is the day when you celebrate yourself for having the courage to believe in love, despite its absence, and for putting yourself out there over and over again despite the hearbreak. I wanna talk about the vulnerable experience of putting ourselves out there. Also known as “being single and looking”. Being “Single and Looking” It’s a bit like walking around with your heart on your sleeve. At any moment you can go back to being a 5 year old on the first day of school. Head downcast, feet shuffling, sleeves twisting, wondering if anyone will want to be your Best Friend.…

  • Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    Return to Innocence

    Note: This post might make no sense. That said, if you are a survivor of sexual trauma, or know of one, you might want to read my story. It happened on my way to work. “One More Day”, from Les Miserables, was playing in my ears. And I suddenly had this realisation: “The Return of Romance”. The belief in Romance rising from the ashes and coming back. Stronger. Wiser. Determined. This may need some explaining… It has to do with my history of trauma. Specifically, my trauma around… sex. (*mouths word like Miranda*) Two kinds of innocence The first, is the innocence of not having known evil. The second, is…