• Working with Stuff

    I am single and I’m in pain

    This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*. Now, according to Karla McLaren, anger shows up when our boundaries have been crossed. Since I’m a HSP with very thin boundaries, and since I don’t get angry very often, I have learned to make the best out of my anger when it does show up. That is: I feel the anger, allow it to…

  • Personal Practice,  Working with Stuff

    Reviewing the Experience – The Yoga Festival

    Last week I worked with my stuff right here on the blog to prepare myself for this yoga festival I was going to over the weekend. Today, I’m reviewing the experience. Because processing what we go through is useful. Sometimes you go on an adventure not knowing what the theme is going to be, and you only find out after the adventure is over. Sometimes you go on an adventure and the theme is so fricking obvious it’s practically standing above your head in flashing neon lights, retro-style. The them of this adventure was “Learning about help” And yes, it was a success, in the sense that I learned a…

  • Stories of my life

    The Weekly Log: a ritual for looking at the week that was

    I found Havi’s blog in September 2010. That’s when I first came across her practice of “looking at the week that was and taking stock”. Four years later, I am ready to start my own. Let’s pause for a minute to take in the enormity of this. After four years of wanting to start a regular practice of “looking at the week that was”, I am now able to do it. Four years! FOUR YEARS!!! As a “recovery depressed” I have issues with the whole “passing of time” thing You know, when you wake up one fine morning and you realise that “sh!t, December is next month! A whole year…

  • Stuff you can try

    Why you should watch cartoons as a productivity strategy

    While I was writing the “Working with your Stuff” e-book, I watched (almost) the whole of “Hey Arnold!”. (In fact, I am watching it right now) While writing + launching my e-book “How to be OK with Yourself”, I watched the whole of “Daria”. Several times. Then I got Daria to help me write the copy for the sales page. (What? You don’t know “Daria”? How did you survive the “teenage years”?!?!”) My (super supportive) friend who witnessed both my endless hours of pouring on my e-book in between my obsessive “Daria” consumption, was like… “W00t?!”. My answer: “I’m under a lot of stress right now, what with doing something…

  • Help in a crisis

    What to do when you’re panicking about all the “suck”

    The other day I was in a serious suck How serious? Tears; “I hate the world”; “I hate myself”; “I hate my life”; “nothing good has ever happened and nothing good will ever happen”. THAT kind of “suck”. I worked with it. And helped myself “out”. Here’s what I did. Music. Obvious? Yes? Cheesy? Absolutely. But calming music always shifts something for me. I go for classical music. (yes…). But any kind of “calming zen-type, mediation-like” music will do. Ask: “does this thought serve me right now“? It’s not that the thought is wrong; it’s just that it’s not helping *right now*. “Can I leave this thought for later?“Know which…