• Stories of my life,  Working with Stuff

    What is the Point of Dreaming?

    Note: this was written at the very end of a difficult time of Extreme Emotions, after my first week visiting my parents in Buenos Aires, Argentina.   This much is true for me. Sometimes all you can do is hold on And when I say “sometimes” I mean, days, weeks, months, even years. Yes. Years. Some years all you can do is hold on. Without a plan. Without even any trust, for trust is a muscle and it grows slowly. Some years all you can do is hold on. Breathe. Practice. Stay as present as you can, processing as much as you can and not more. Being as kind to…

  • Stories of my life

    What do I know about poverty?

    It all begun with this question. “What do you know about poverty, Mary?” You know how people in business sites and self-help sites (which should be one and the same) are always telling you that “people will be attracted to your flaws”? Yeah, I don’t believe it either. I mean, here I am exposing my flaws regularly on this here blog, and… where are all those people who are supposed to be attracted to me again? This is probably my stuff talking. It definitely sounds like my stuff. The whole “people will be attracted to your flaws” feels true. It may not “seem” true, according to my stuff. But it…

  • Widdershins Essentials,  Working with Stuff

    Our Default is Peace

    It takes less energy to be “happy”. To be at peace. To be whole. We are hard wired for peace, you see. If you get quiet enough, you find peace. Our default is “happiness”, our default is “peace”, our default is “wholeness”. Of course, we get thrown out of alignment because we live in a culture that is bananas, so we all end up half bananas at best. And yes, a good part of our tendency towards going bananas is due to the fact that we are human. We lose it. We cling on to things, we want to have our way. That’s part of the human experience: we will…