• Stories of my life

    What do I know about poverty?

    It all begun with this question. “What do you know about poverty, Mary?” You know how people in business sites and self-help sites (which should be one and the same) are always telling you that “people will be attracted to your flaws”? Yeah, I don’t believe it either. I mean, here I am exposing my flaws regularly on this here blog, and… where are all those people who are supposed to be attracted to me again? This is probably my stuff talking. It definitely sounds like my stuff. The whole “people will be attracted to your flaws” feels true. It may not “seem” true, according to my stuff. But it…

  • Working with Stuff

    You are not what you own

    I was listening to Tad Hargrave, from “Marketing for Hippies”, describing the most sleazy marketing techniques he has come across… And I wondered… All these people’s desperation to make money no matter what… It must be borne out of fear. It has to be. What are they so afraid of? That they will make less money? And is that such a bad thing? I have spent the entirety of my adult life being deeply and truly poor. Which sucks, in oh-so-many ways… But one of the “upsides” of being so poor is that I don’t fear poverty so much. I know I can survive on little. I cannot imagine myself…

  • Stories of my life

    My Highly Sensitive Person Manifesto

    One of the reasons why it has taken me so blooming long to find out that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person is because… I am sensitive to things most people aren’t sensitive to. For example: most HSPs have food allergies or food sensitivities. Well… I don’t. I have no food allergies of any kind to my knowledge. Because my sensitivities are… “unconventional”, they are harder to spot. So I’m sharing them with you. This post will be part “educational” and part “manifesto”. Because I really want to say “this is what I’m sensitive to and it’s legitimate, damn it!”. Let’s start. Sound A lot of HSP are sensitive to sound.…

  • Working with Stuff

    How to Survive a Job Beneath You

    It was a few months ago. I was doing a “j-o-b”, day after day after day. I needed the money. Trapped. Bored. Anxious. Help! I wrote down the title of this post, and I listed all the things I was doing to help myself survive the dread. Lots of us are in this “in between” place We are working towards our “dream”, but we have to carry on doing things we don’t want to do. Like what Marie Forleo calls “Bridge Job”. “Waiting for things to get better” can be excruciatingly painful. You are desperate, lost, confused, hurting like Hell, and you have absolutely no idea what to do, because…