• Working with Stuff

    Holding Beliefs for Others… and When Not To

    My realisation went like this: “I am not going to carry beliefs for them* any more. I am done. No more.” *Them being “men”. Men in general. I am not altogether clear on what this meant, so I’m going to try to find clarity by writing about it here. “Holding Beliefs for Others” Holding Beliefs for other people can be a wonderful practice, if done consciously. Like when I hold a belief for my friend. It works like this: When she’s having trouble believing good things for herself, I hold that belief for her. I say “I believe you are amazing, and you are capable of awesome things in this…

  • Working with Stuff

    Envy

    I have a strong pattern around “envy”. It’s partly the background I grew up in. Back in Argentina, people will resort to anything to put on airs and graces, trying to impress everyone, while they simultaneously lose their sh!t whenever someone has something they don’t. Putting on airs, losing their sh!t. Rinse, repeat. It’s not a pretty sight, or a healthy state of mind to be in. It’s mostly seen on insecure people. And most always on *women*. People turn nasty. Manipulative. Heartless. They will grab onto anything to impress other people. Including their own offspring. “My child goes to Yale” “oh, yeah? Well mine goes to Harvard“. That kind…

  • Live under the New Rules,  My Thoughts on the World

    There must be more than “getting by”

    Allow me to say a few things. Actually, this is my blog, and my computer, so I can say whatever I want. Ha! I forgot. I want to believe there is more than “getting by”. I want to believe it is possible to live life to make our dreams come true. Listen, I am very, very poor. I know that. How poor? Well. I’ve been living my whole adult life in between half of the “poverty line” and a third. Yes, a third of the “poverty line”. Which is to say, I’ve been very, very poor. AND I want to believe there is more than “getting by” It’s easy to…

  • Widdershins Essentials

    Moments of Happiness

    The Holidays (capital “H”) be upon us! I don’t know you, but I tend to get really stressed during this time. This year, I am turning down the stress dial… by a lot. Instead of “Happy Holidays”, I think of it as “Happy Moments”. One of the beautiful side-effects of mindfulness practice is that we begin to have these spontaneous moments of “waking up”. You are going about your business and all of a sudden you step back from “normal”, look around you, and take in the scene. It’s in these moments when we usually find happiness. That tiny sweet feeling of “things are rather wonderful”. I’ll call them “Tiny…

  • Working with Stuff

    I am single and I’m in pain

    This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*. Now, according to Karla McLaren, anger shows up when our boundaries have been crossed. Since I’m a HSP with very thin boundaries, and since I don’t get angry very often, I have learned to make the best out of my anger when it does show up. That is: I feel the anger, allow it to…