Holding beliefs for others

Holding Beliefs for Others… and When Not To

My realisation went like this: “I am not going to carry beliefs for them* any more. I am done. No more.” *Them being “men”. Men in general. I am not altogether clear on what this meant, so I’m going to try to find clarity by writing about it here. “Holding Beliefs for Others” Holding BeliefsRead more

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Using Lovers

My ex used to say that women want men the way they want fashion accessories. “They want men like they want a purse“. My ex was an arsehole. So there’s that. I’ve been noticing lately how and when I hanker for a man And the truth is… Not flattering. When I’m bored, and I craveRead more

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What is “emotionally true” may not be “mentally true”

I had this realisation the other day… Fancy that! I believe I can explain this better by sharing with you an excerpt from a conversation Imo (my imaginary friend) and I had some time ago… Imo, please take the floor. Imo: I believe the conversation went like this… You were telling me about how it’sRead more

Bad Luck

Bad Luck

There I was. Watching the Hunger Games, and marvelling at Peeta’s devotion for Katniss. (He is so cute!) I mean, he adores her. He shows nothing but devotion towards her. Pure, crystal clear love. Then this feeling showed up: “Man, I’ve had some real bad luck”. I believe strongly in giving ourselves permission to feelRead more

This shall be Mr Wonderful. 
For now...

Clarity is Scary

Say you want something. Like, oh, I don’t know, to pick an example totally at random: A WONDERFUL MAN. So you decide to work with this Want by using “Qualities” This is a technique to help you get closer to the thing you want. It works like this: you break down this thing you wantRead more