• Working with Stuff

    Holding Beliefs for Others… and When Not To

    My realisation went like this: “I am not going to carry beliefs for them* any more. I am done. No more.” *Them being “men”. Men in general. I am not altogether clear on what this meant, so I’m going to try to find clarity by writing about it here. “Holding Beliefs for Others” Holding Beliefs for other people can be a wonderful practice, if done consciously. Like when I hold a belief for my friend. It works like this: When she’s having trouble believing good things for herself, I hold that belief for her. I say “I believe you are amazing, and you are capable of awesome things in this…

  • My Thoughts on the World

    “Light Gets In” – Living well with mental illness, by Esme Wang

    This is my review of Esme’s book “Light Gets In”. It’s about living with mental illness… But really? It’s about life. A cosy room. Light streams in, dimmed by a storm outside… Reading Esme’s book feels like sitting next to her in that room, cup of tea held in both hands, comfortably in silence. Being present in that very real, very complex moment where things aren’t great, but they aren’t Hell either. That moment when you realise that this “in between” is what life is made of. So you sit quietly. And feel the waves of realisation wash over you. This is life, this very moment. Not the great, nor…