• Working with Stuff

    I am single and I’m in pain

    This is one of those rare posts where I show you “live” how I work with my stuff. It’s full of seriously cool and useful concepts. At least 5 things that are Important to Know. First the back story I was in a Facebook conversation on the topic of “Single”. When suddenly I felt *anger*. Now, according to Karla McLaren, anger shows up when our boundaries have been crossed. Since I’m a HSP with very thin boundaries, and since I don’t get angry very often, I have learned to make the best out of my anger when it does show up. That is: I feel the anger, allow it to…

  • My Thoughts on the World

    #YesAllWomen, Own Your Anger

    I wasn’t going to publish this post, but Imo (my imaginary monster friend) said I should. So here it is. My take on the “#YesAllWomen” phenomenon. As some of you know, I was a “Feminist Writer” for many, many years. Eventually, I gave up Feminism due to reasons. Too much neurosis, too much pain. And I decided to plunge into the world of yoga, mindfulness and general self-help, because that is what heals my neurosis and my pain. And, I hope, is what will help other people heal their neurosis and their pain. Feminism meets Self-Help Last week, or the week before, something in the Feminist World grew so big…

  • Working with Stuff

    Dark and Twisted Stuff

    This was me earlier today, putting my “stuff” on paper. I can’t breath. This happens regularly. It’s the whole “beautiful women” thing. Again. And since forever. If God had given me a machine gun, there would be no more beautiful women on this planet. Seriously. None. Zapped out of existence. Oh, you thought working with your stuff was a pretty business? Perhaps you bought in the… “aesthetic lies” told to you by myriad pictures of beautiful women doing yoga, amongst the flowers and beaches? Working with your stuff is not pretty. Not even slightly. You have to encounter the stuff that makes you look like a monster. You think I’m…

  • Working with Stuff

    Possessive Squirrel Returns

    So. Perhaps you thought last post was just a bit of harmless fun. Perhaps you thought “oh, this Mary… coming up with a funny squirrel…” Perhaps, like me, you completely underestimated the power of being possessive with your feelings. It happened last Sunday… I was at this event, and I ran into a guy I had met briefly once. I don’t know what I had just said to him, but he remarked… “you are always so angry”. I paused. And then I replied: “I’m not angry, I’m excited”. BOO YAH! Let’s look at this slowly… In my last post, I wrote about this huge realisation that came to me after…