You have a reason

You Have a Reason to be Depressed

You have a reason

You have a most excellent reason.

In fact, you probably have a whole lot of excellent reasons.

YOU HAVE A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED

It doesn’t matter if you’re famous.
It doesn’t matter if you’re rich.

It doesn’t matter if you’re best pals with Oprah, and you two spend every Sunday in the Seychelles sipping fruit juices.

YOU HAVE A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED.

There is always a reason for depression.

But not in the way you think…

The mind is trying to help

When you have depression, your mind is trying to help. And it’s going by what it knows.

And what the mind knows is what it has read, heard, seen, internalised from this culture of ours.
And this culture says one thing and one thing only: PUSH THROUGH.

No one ever has a “good enough” reason to stop and take a breather.

“Maybe if Serious Tragedy happened, and your entire family suddenly vanished only to start a colony on the Moon, where you will never see them again. Maybe then.”
“Maybe when you’re on holidays, where you kind of have to put your feet down because, well, you paid good money to.”

BS.

You have a reason to be depressed.
There is always a reason for depression.

What happens is that the reason is not immediately obvious to the mind. Because… well, because it shouldn’t be.

The mind shouldn’t be running the show all the time

Because the mind doesn’t understand everything.

It doesn’t understand the rules of the Body. And it shouldn’t. You have your Body for that.
It doesn’t understand the rules of the Emotions. And it shouldn’t. You have your Emotions for that.
It doesn’t understand the rules of seriously wacky stuff like Spirit and Energy.

Depression is a safety mechanism, brought to you courtesy of your “Inner Wisdom”. Your “Inner Wisdom” essentially says: “something’s off, better shut down everything”.

And the reason why it’s your Inner Wisdom who has to step in is because the mind couldn’t spot what was happening.
Because… the mind doesn’t understand everything.
And the mind shouldn’t be running the show all the time.

When you’re caught up trying to find a reason, saying to yourself:
I shouldn’t be depressed, I shouldn’t feel low, I have no reason, I have it really good, I mean, I’m not starving in the snow or anything”…
That’s the time to stop and say:
OK… so I don’t know the reason, but I’m feeling low / sad / depressed, so there must be a reason somewhere. I may not find out what it is right away. I may never find out. But I’m gonna trust that there is a reason, because there is always a reason.

When we assume there’s a reason, we give “legitimacy”

When we tell ourselves we don’t have a reason to be depressed, we shut down “legitimacy”.

And without giving ourselves legitimacy, without giving ourselves this very clear sense that “of course it makes sense to be feeling what we’re feeling”, we stop the flow of feelings…

And that leads to feelings becoming stagnated. Trapped. Locked inside you.

Which is the very definition of depression: so much feeling in your being, unable to move anywhere, until you become one solid block of suffering.

Can you see how terribly counterproductive this is?

It is far, far, far better to lie down unable to move while reminding yourself that there is a reason for feeling depressed, than to lie down unable to move while telling yourself you have no reason for feeling depressed.

When you assume you have a reason, you are not just lying there: you go from “feeling depressed” to “I am going through something that will be over at some point”.

And that makes all the difference to healing from depression.

So, once again, with feeling:

You have a reason for being depressed.

You may not know what it is.
You may not think it’s “big enough”.
You may never find out the reason.

But you have a reason for being depressed.

Never doubt that.